Sep 8, 2021National Ampersand Day — Be &National Ampersand Day — Be & Today is National Ampersand Day, which fits my mission on Earth perfectly. So, Beloved, do you Ampersand? Recently someone whose work I admire greatly wrote me a message on Facebook. …Ampersand3 min read
Feb 4, 2021What Comes After Nude Descending the Staircase?What if I told you that our world has already been in the exact place we are right now — except on a smaller scale? And what if I also told you that I know what comes next? Would you want to know or would you rather live into the…Pay Attention9 min read
Feb 3, 2021Rising from the Depths of DisappointmentWhen I was a kid, the very worst thing my mama could say to me was, I’m so disappointed in you. She never yelled it; she spoke sedately, quietly, but the feeling it gave me was downright awful. I felt transformed from regular size to Lilliputian. I’m coming to the…Disappointment9 min read
Feb 2, 2021The Truth, The Whole Truth, and Nothing But the Truth, So Help Us GodI’m not really a movie person, but for some silly reason, I saw a movie when I was about 11, a piece of which has stayed with me for more than 50 years. Made in 1962, If a Man Answers starred Doris Day and Rock Hudson as a newly married…Truth9 min read
Feb 1, 2021The Road Forward Mandates Mutuality, Reciprocity, and ListeningLet’s just go for it this morning, shall we? Anyone else having ‘discussions’ about the validity of the coronavirus vaccine with unreasonable people? Wharton School of Business organizational psychologist Adam Grant had already had the anti-vaxxer debate of debates with one of his oldest friends. Then came corona. …Reciprocity9 min read
Jan 31, 2021Two Kinds of People — Which One Are You?You know how there are words that you know but only sort of? And usually because of context? Well, lately there’s one that’s been appearing daily — impunity — so I finally repaired to the OED to get a firm grasp on its antecedents and its meaning. The definition of…Impunity8 min read
Jan 30, 2021It’s Time for Some Common Common SenseIn as much as we are all humans, none of us will be surprised to learn that we want what we want when we want it, contradiction notwithstanding. As I read this morning’s New York Times, I kept thinking of an old proverb. Here’s what the Wikis say about it: …Laissez Faire9 min read
Jan 29, 2021Heeding the Wisdom of a Cautionary TaleIs anyone else tired of the old arguments — pro and con — about the filibuster in the Senate? I sure am. It’s just like couples who come to me for counseling and end up not telling me about their actual differences, but instead fighting about how they fight. My…Godot8 min read
Jan 28, 2021Taking Apart What’s Been Put Together That Doesn’t Belong TogetherMost probably, I would not tell you that my husband, as good and wise as he is, is a seer, but since the Trump Takeover, he’s said that We the People would not know how dire its outcomes until long after the Trump Troll had departed. …Future9 min read
Jan 27, 2021Cock-A-Doodle-Doo! Time to Do Our PartA Letter to the Editor in this morning’s New York Times … “Re ‘Rooster’s Noise Lawsuit a Win for France’s Barnyard Bellowers’ (news article, Jan. 25): “The crowing of the late Maurice the rooster and his successors is now protected by French law: liberté, égalité, cacophonie. “Steven S. Honigman “New…Listening8 min read